soulmend991

Where healing begins, hope grows, and hearts find home.

  • Welcome. I’m so glad you’re here. If you’ve found your way to this blog, there’s a good chance you’re searching for hope, healing, or simply a reminder that brighter days are possible. I know that feeling because I’ve lived it. I’m a single mum of four incredible children, and life has taken me down paths… Read more

  • There’s a Korean drama I watched sometime back called It’s Okay to Not Be Okay that beneath its beautiful storytelling, explores emotional pain, childhood wounds, family, love and healing. At the centre of the story is a man who has spent much of his life caring for others, particularly his older brother, while quietly neglecting… Read more

  • I’ll Get to Me Later

    Lately, I’ve realised that not every difficult day needs a solution. Sometimes, I just need to ask myself, “What do I need right now?” As mothers, especially single mothers, we can become so focused on doing that we forget how to simply be. We push our own needs further down the list and tell ourselves,… Read more

  • How do you manage stress? View all responses When life starts to feel too heavy, I try to slow down and focus on one thing at a time instead of everything at once. I remind myself that not everything needs to be done today and that it’s okay to leave some things for tomorrow. I… Read more

  • “Sometimes the strongest person in the room is the one quietly wondering how much longer they can carry everything.” There’s a side of single parenthood that doesn’t always get talked about. It’s not just raising children alone. It’s carrying the invisible weight of an entire household while trying to keep yourself together at the same… Read more

  • Sometimes I wonder when I stopped seeing myself as a woman and started seeing myself only through the roles I carry. I am a mother. I am a single mother. I am a Muslimah. I am the one my children depend on. I am the one who makes the decisions, keeps things organised, holds everything… Read more

  • We wake up to notifications. We message friends throughout the day. We scroll through hundreds of faces, opinions, jokes and stories before we even get out of bed. So why do so many of us still feel lonely? That is the paradox of modern wellbeing: we have more ways to connect than any generation before us,… Read more

  • There was a time when I thought being exhausted was just part of being a mum. Then life changed in ways I never imagined. As a single mum raising four children, one of whom lives with an acquired brain injury, exhaustion stopped being about sleepless nights with babies or busy school mornings. It became something… Read more

  • Trauma has a way of changing how we experience the world. It can leave us feeling anxious, disconnected, overwhelmed, or constantly on edge. Sometimes we know exactly where those feelings come from. Other times, we only notice that life doesn’t feel the way it used to. One of the biggest misconceptions about trauma is that… Read more

  • We often imagine healing as a finish line—a place where the pain disappears, life feels easy again, and everything finally makes sense. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that healing rarely looks like that. Healing is messy. It’s unpredictable. Some days you feel stronger than ever, and other days a memory, a song,… Read more